Trying to change yourself can be dangerous. Implicit in doing so is self-conflict and non-acceptance, which create anxiety and paralysis.
When you’re in the right place, everything becomes effortless. Examine a moment when you were at your best. There’s a good chance you weren’t trying to be at your best. Instead of changing yourself, change your environment and your circumstances. Find the right fit, instead of trying to fit yourself to an ideal. Losing yourself to gain something is always a net loss.