Advice

All is true; none is true.

No advice works for everyone. All advice works for at least one person.

Buying

If you want to buy something, wait a week. If you want to buy it the next week, wait another week.

If you still want to buy it the week after that, buy it.

Some desires may fade, and that’s just as good as having spent for it.

The Brain’s Potential

What if I worked on every work assignment like it was a timed final exam in school?

How much time would I reclaim? How would my priorities shift?

The Best Book

The best book is the one you will absolutely devour. A love for reading is critical and should be cultivated at all costs. So read any book— romance novel, young adult literature, textbook — that gets you reading more.

I often start and discard books quickly. For a long time, I thought this was bad. My flawed solution: stop reading books altogether. How short-sighted.

Now I see it simply as an issue of match fit. When you read the right thing at the right time, you’ll read the whole thing. To get there, sampling may be better than forcing yourself to read every page of something that will just diminish your love of reading. The best book is the one you read.

Self-Conflict

Address and resolve self-conflict at all costs.

We are hurt when a person spews a mean comment at us. But we are destroyed when we believe and repeat that comment thousands of times to ourselves.

The Limits Of Advice

Don’t ask others what they eat for breakfast or what they do for exercise or what their evening routine is. Figure out what you eat for breakfast, what you do for exercise, and what your evening routine is.

I love listening to advice interviews and enjoy asking people for advice on their routines and systems and life.

But all this advice is only helpful to the extent they help us form our own answers to these questions.

Asking and receiving advice gives us a small dopamine hit. “Wow, maybe I could try that. That’s a great idea.” And we feel good. And that feeling satiates the part of us that wanted to change. We end up staying the same, ignoring the advice.

What I think helps is understanding that we can never become anyone else. The best we can do is to respect the spirit of another. You couldn’t recreate your own life path exactly if you tried, let alone follow exactly in another’s footsteps. In this way, it’s impossible to follow anyone’s advice fully. This tension leads us to ignore advice completely.

We have to make the advice our own. Remix the recipe or exercise regimen, even slightly. It’ll stick more and create personal investment. And in this way we pay respect to those that gave the advice. We all know we can’t be anyone else but ourselves. We will always be more invested in something we create than something someone else created.

We can pay homage to what others do. We can’t copy paste.

Awareness

Becoming fearless requires becoming aware of your own fear.

Becoming calm requires being aware of your anger.

What you resist persists.

You can’t manage what you deny.

Creativity

Learn frameworks, then abandon them.

Embody a structure, then forget it.

Memorize the recipe, then throw it away.